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A little love in exchange for a lot of pain . Content Warning.
A little love in exchange for a lot of pain. Some of us have suffered childhood traumas that have left us incapable of loving ourselves, and some of us think to ourselves, "I don't deserve love."
By Ashrakat Elnagy2 months ago in Humans
Maintaining Peace In An Uncertain World
The world we live in at current is in a state that I don’t believe any of us has ever witnessed, and with everything that is taking place it can cause a sense of uncertainty, anxiety and fear to arise, which no matter who you are, living in this state of constant stress in relation to wondering what will come next is something that will have detrimental effects on an individuals entire state of being.
By Kaylon Forsyth2 months ago in Humans
Problem Solving Strategies For Singles Dealing With Emotional Burnout
It is quite thrilling to date, yet dating may cause emotional exhaustion among most singles as a result of recurrent disappointments, ambiguity, and being social at all times. Emotional burnout is characterized by fatigue, frustration, and disillusionment so that one will have a hard time communicating effectively with potential partners. Unless there are adequate strategies, singles will either withdraw out of dating or engage in unhealthy patterns again. The process of becoming aware of burnout is the initial step to recovery because it enables an individual to deal with existing problems, restore emotional stocks, and re-enter dating in a more conscious and healthy manner.
By Grace Smith2 months ago in Humans
Duct-Taping the Future of Tomorrow. Honorable Mention in A System That Isn’t Working Challenge.
It’s my second block class, around 10:30 in the morning. The fluorescent overhead lights are off, and the room is otherwise illuminated by the bright sunlight from the windows, the soft lamps surrounding the room, and the colorful Christmas lights hanging from the ceiling. I sit on my stool in front of my 28 general education students. They’re white, black, brown. They’ve all been best friends since kindergarten. We take turns going over the daily writing, where they write about themselves and then we share our stories. The students laugh, smile. They know that we’ll be doing grammar next, so they all tell stories hoping to ward off the inevitable. When everyone has shared and we’ve all finished laughing, we review the sentence corrections, the sentence combining. I give them a little mini-lesson on some aspect of grammar that has eluded them so far. We talk about how weird the English language is, and then we pull out our textbooks or packets or novels or whatever it is we’re reading. We have pencils and highlighters loaded and ready to go. I scoot my stool to the center of the room, and then the reading begins.
By Bryan Buffkin2 months ago in Humans
What I Learned Having Roommates Again in my 50s
I just had the strangest month of my life in January. Just before the new year, I opted to rent a room from a couple in their early 30s. They seemed nice. Both had jobs. They have two cats in the home. The home was perfectly clean, but it was well-organized. I didn’t even have to have a bed, dresser, or nightstand! Seems perfect. Not only that, but it was only $500 a month – that covered utilities and internet. When I went to look at the space, I was there for over an hour chatting with them. While there was a 20-year gap in our ages, I got along with them well. The house is a duplex, and the landlord lives in the other half. So, two days later, I moved in. It would all go downhill from there.
By Ivy Rose2 months ago in Humans
The Power of Starting Before You Feel Ready
One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is, “I’ll start when I’m ready.” It sounds responsible. It sounds smart. It feels safe. But most of the time, it’s fear wearing the mask of logic.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
You Don’t Need to Be Extraordinary to Be Valuable
Somewhere along the way, we started believing that average isn’t good enough. Social media highlights the most dramatic transformations, the biggest wins, the loudest voices, and the fastest success stories. Scroll long enough and you’ll start to feel like being normal is a failure. If you’re not exceptional, viral, or ahead of everyone else, it can feel like you’re falling behind.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
What the System Forces You to Become
The Question the System Replaces By the time a person has passed through employment law, healthcare coverage rules, unemployment insurance, disability determination, and benefit eligibility, the relevant question has already shifted without ever being stated out loud. It is no longer whether the system helped or failed them. It is whether they managed to remain legible long enough to survive it. Each institutional layer imposes requirements that appear reasonable when viewed in isolation, yet become coercive when experienced sequentially:
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast2 months ago in Humans
Discipline Is Stronger Than Motivation (And Here’s Why)
Motivation feels powerful. It’s exciting. It gives you energy. It makes you feel like change is finally possible. But motivation is unreliable. It comes in waves, often triggered by emotion—a video you watched, a conversation you had, a sudden burst of inspiration. The problem is that motivation fades just as quickly as it appears.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
Lifestyle Habits That Help Singles Build Stronger Emotional Connections
An individual who wants to enjoy successful relationships must use strong emotional appeal. In singles, lifestyle choices are essential towards increasing emotional availability, self-consciousness, and interpersonal skills. Good daily habits and purposeful behavior can contribute to the cultivation of empathy, communication and trust, which are the basis of intimate relationships. Making lifestyle decisions not only in self care but in socialization have a direct impact on the capacity to relate with people in an authentic manner. Through cultivating behaviors that promote emotional well-being, singles will be able to meet dating and relationships with a sense of confidence, patience, and openness and stand a higher chance of making lasting and meaningful relationships.
By Tiana Alexandra2 months ago in Humans
Catching Fish
Anyone who fishes, knows, there is an art to catching fish. You need the right environment and weather, the right, bait or lure, and a bit of wisdom and finesse, in the way you cast out. It’s an art really. Not everyone can catch fish, and be good at it. Then there is the whole question of ethics.
By Alexandra Grant2 months ago in Humans
The Quiet Journey Toward Who I Really Am
I Used to Believe Life Would Explain Itself — Now I Know It Doesn’t For a long time, I thought life would eventually make sense on its own. I believed that eventually, all the confusion, quiet disappointments, and unanswered questions would fall into place, neatly lining up so I could understand. Turns out, I was wrong. Life doesn’t hand you all the answers. Instead, it asks you to live first and maybe understand later—if you’re lucky.
By Caca Oispipi2 months ago in Humans