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What I Learned Having Roommates Again in my 50s
I just had the strangest month of my life in January. Just before the new year, I opted to rent a room from a couple in their early 30s. They seemed nice. Both had jobs. They have two cats in the home. The home was perfectly clean, but it was well-organized. I didn’t even have to have a bed, dresser, or nightstand! Seems perfect. Not only that, but it was only $500 a month – that covered utilities and internet. When I went to look at the space, I was there for over an hour chatting with them. While there was a 20-year gap in our ages, I got along with them well. The house is a duplex, and the landlord lives in the other half. So, two days later, I moved in. It would all go downhill from there.
By Ivy Rose2 months ago in Humans
The Power of Starting Before You Feel Ready
One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is, “I’ll start when I’m ready.” It sounds responsible. It sounds smart. It feels safe. But most of the time, it’s fear wearing the mask of logic.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
You Don’t Need to Be Extraordinary to Be Valuable
Somewhere along the way, we started believing that average isn’t good enough. Social media highlights the most dramatic transformations, the biggest wins, the loudest voices, and the fastest success stories. Scroll long enough and you’ll start to feel like being normal is a failure. If you’re not exceptional, viral, or ahead of everyone else, it can feel like you’re falling behind.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
What the System Forces You to Become
The Question the System Replaces By the time a person has passed through employment law, healthcare coverage rules, unemployment insurance, disability determination, and benefit eligibility, the relevant question has already shifted without ever being stated out loud. It is no longer whether the system helped or failed them. It is whether they managed to remain legible long enough to survive it. Each institutional layer imposes requirements that appear reasonable when viewed in isolation, yet become coercive when experienced sequentially:
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast2 months ago in Humans
Discipline Is Stronger Than Motivation (And Here’s Why)
Motivation feels powerful. It’s exciting. It gives you energy. It makes you feel like change is finally possible. But motivation is unreliable. It comes in waves, often triggered by emotion—a video you watched, a conversation you had, a sudden burst of inspiration. The problem is that motivation fades just as quickly as it appears.
By mike2 months ago in Humans
Lifestyle Habits That Help Singles Build Stronger Emotional Connections
An individual who wants to enjoy successful relationships must use strong emotional appeal. In singles, lifestyle choices are essential towards increasing emotional availability, self-consciousness, and interpersonal skills. Good daily habits and purposeful behavior can contribute to the cultivation of empathy, communication and trust, which are the basis of intimate relationships. Making lifestyle decisions not only in self care but in socialization have a direct impact on the capacity to relate with people in an authentic manner. Through cultivating behaviors that promote emotional well-being, singles will be able to meet dating and relationships with a sense of confidence, patience, and openness and stand a higher chance of making lasting and meaningful relationships.
By Tiana Alexandra2 months ago in Humans
Catching Fish
Anyone who fishes, knows, there is an art to catching fish. You need the right environment and weather, the right, bait or lure, and a bit of wisdom and finesse, in the way you cast out. It’s an art really. Not everyone can catch fish, and be good at it. Then there is the whole question of ethics.
By Alexandra Grant2 months ago in Humans
The Quiet Journey Toward Who I Really Am
I Used to Believe Life Would Explain Itself — Now I Know It Doesn’t For a long time, I thought life would eventually make sense on its own. I believed that eventually, all the confusion, quiet disappointments, and unanswered questions would fall into place, neatly lining up so I could understand. Turns out, I was wrong. Life doesn’t hand you all the answers. Instead, it asks you to live first and maybe understand later—if you’re lucky.
By Caca Oispipi2 months ago in Humans
Clean Your Circle
Sara used to believe that being a good person meant tolerating everyone. She listened to complaints that were never-ending. She accepted insults disguised as jokes. She forgave disrespect because she didn’t want to seem rude. She stayed in conversations that drained her energy and relationships that quietly broke her confidence.
By Active USA 2 months ago in Humans
Hey, God
“Dear God, Spirit, Protector, Infinite Mind, Source, I am really in need of a friend." "In need? Is this a want, or you really need?"
By Heather Scott2 months ago in Humans
Living With Cognitive Fatigue? Practical Strategies for Clearer Thinking
Cognitive fatigue is the most common symptom reported after illness and brain injury. People describe walking into rooms and forgetting what they came for, reading the same paragraph several times without retaining it, or losing important information minutes after hearing it. When the brain is fatigued, it cannot process or store information as efficiently as it normally would. The encouraging news is that in many cases cognitive functioning tends to recover as fatigues improves.
By Sarah Rudebeck2 months ago in Humans
Just start by forgiving and forgetting
How many times have you heard the words forgive and forget? As far back as I can remember, my mother (God rest her soul) always talked about forgiveness that it is important because it is what our Lord and savior Jesus Christ did for those who betrayed him to be honest I have a real difficulty trying to forgive I mean it's so easy you let go of the hate you let go of the hurt that has been inside your heart your head your soul and you're able to move on I've seen people do it I've heard people talk about how they can just easily forgive those who have betrayed them I have a real difficulty trying to forgive especially those who stabbed me in the back betrayed me and figuratively speaking just left out to die. I have so many former friends that I hold so much hatred towards them, and I don't wanna hold it anymore. I try to let it go, I try to move on, but out of nowhere those memories just come back, and they ignite that fire that I thought I put out.
By stephanie borges2 months ago in Humans