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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
How I Learned To Stop Comparing Myself With Others And You Can Too
The Dangers of Comparing Yourself to Others and Why You Shouldn’t The way we see other people is not how they really are and it’s not how they want to be seen. It’s just how they want us to see them, which is a skewed version of themselves. We have no idea what their struggles are or the amount of effort they put in each day to be the person they want you to see them as.
By David Burrows4 years ago in Psyche
The Cost of Success
Many parents tell their children to be good boys/girls, ace their studies and you will succeed in life. While it makes sense to an extent, it is not 100% true. What it certainly causes is burnout. You will feel miserable. You are a loser in your own eyes. You are underperforming and wasting your potential. In the end, you spend months and even years trying to recover.
By Neurodivergent_ai4 years ago in Psyche
What a man is when he is in love is the whole truth of his humanity
What a person really is is hard to detect in everyday life. Everyone has learned to disguise themselves cleverly and show the best of themselves to others. With friends, the strengths and weaknesses in our personality structure are not so obvious. But when we deal with our relationships, these strengths and weaknesses are exposed as if under a magnifying glass. Of course, some people will say that there are a lot of people who cheat on their relationship, why didn't they get caught? In fact, those who cheat on the relationship, in the relationship problems have also revealed some truth, but the other side is not aware of it. Only those who are perceptive can see each other for what they really are when they are in love.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
Appear THESE 5 KINDS OF REVENGE PSYCHOLOGICAL compensation, explain you to oneself CONCERN IS NOT enough
We all yearn to be cared for by others, so the question is, do you care about yourself? These are two different forces: to gain the attention of others, whose energy comes from outside; Self-care, its energy comes from within. The former is more powerful, but out of our control; The latter, though weak, is entirely within our control. Ideally, of course, these two forces work together to make our minds stronger. However, people spend so much energy on getting attention from others that they neglect self-care. A person who lacks self-care, who does not know how to love himself, will have the following five kinds of retaliatory psychological compensation.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
When you're stuck with an obsession, use these 4 steps to get rid of it
What is compulsion? The simplest way to think about it is, you have to think about it. Some people associate completely irrelevant things with the things they care about most, leading them to do meaningless, illogical, irrelevant things. For example: I must squat 10 times a day, otherwise my parents will have an accident; Every day when I go out, I must avoid that road, or it will be dangerous; I had to double-check important steps or I was bound to make a huge mistake. It is compulsion to connect things that are not logically connected and to establish a false belief that what will happen if you do not do so.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
A dependent's sense of worth is like a balloon that quickly dries up when let go
There are people whose sense of worth rests on the validation of others. When others give them a positive evaluation, they will feel the value of their own existence; When others criticize them a little, it will cause the value of their own existence hormone exhaustion. This feeling is like a balloon full of air, a little let go of will quickly collapse. People usually call this kind of people glass heart, with this kind of people always have to be careful, because a little inattention can hurt them. With this kind of people for a long time, will feel particularly tired. From a psychological point of view, they can not say that they have any personality disorder, only lack of experience. Experience too little in life, so the heart is very fragile.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
People who are comfortable in conversation usually have these five characteristics
Some people think that chatting is a science, some people think that chatting is the embodiment of emotional intelligence. In fact, the way we talk says a lot about our personality traits. A person's internal quality characteristics, in the conversation almost revealed. Some people always speak in secret, some people can't speak fast. Some phenomena, even if they happen to the person we're talking to, are actually projecting our own characteristics. Others speak covertly, because you are always denying each other; Others speak slowly, because you are too indecisive. You may feel awkward talking to some people. But there are some people you feel very comfortable talking to.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
Lonely people, even when surrounded by friends, still feel out of place
There is such a kind of inner lonely people, even surrounded by friends, or the feeling of antipathy. Their sense of worth is not based on what others say, and no amount of external affirmation can bring them out of their loneliness. Introverts are thought to be more likely to feel lonely, but extroverts are actually more likely to feel lonely. The former have self-contained inner world and can enjoy happiness in solitude; The latter, they lack the experience to get along with themselves, so they are more likely to feel lonely after leaving their friends. So what does psychology say about loneliness? Is it a support or a hindrance to our growth?
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
A mentally strong person should possess these 7 qualities
People's growth should have a certain openness, rather than rigid adherence to a certain value. In other words, my life is up to me! But on another level, no matter where your life takes you, some inner qualities are essential. When you have these inner qualities, whatever lifestyle you choose will go well. But if you don't have these abilities, no matter how you live your life, it will be difficult and painful. Sometimes our obsession with certain goals can lead us into confusion. Instead of pursuing your goals, improve your inner qualities.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
There are four weaknesses in human nature that almost no one can avoid
What should we, as people, think about our own power? Are we strong or weak? In fact, human nature itself is weak, the so-called strong is the result of our efforts. In other words, if we don't work hard to overcome our weaknesses, then we can hardly become strong. Psychological research has found that there are many unavoidable weaknesses when people are growing up. Even a man of mature mind has come out of these weaknesses. How a person views his own weakness determines his acceptance of himself. Admitting our weaknesses sometimes gives us the upper hand.
By John Wilson4 years ago in Psyche
Turning the whole into pieces, step by step
Success is precisely a whole into zero, step-by-step process, not a straightforward path overnight. For example, a common phenomenon: many people are prone to decadence and feel that the task is too difficult to complete, so anxiety psychology, has to choose to temporarily escape, or do it tomorrow. Tomorrow and tomorrow, dragging again and again; and once the task is divided into smaller pieces of easier, turn the whole into zero, reduce the difficulty of the task, postpone their mentality to give up, you can complete more tasks every day.
By Sylvia T Gantt4 years ago in Psyche
