breakups

When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.

Should You Leave Your Relationship?
Many relationships end without much effort to mend them, couples get frustrated and stop trying. Like most things in life, greatness doesn't come without hard work.
By Waverleigh Rose Garlington8 years ago in Humans
You Didn't Love Me
One of my biggest faults is that I can find a way to forgive anyone and I can find a lesson in every way someone hurts me. Time after time, it leads to more hurt when I inevitably let these people back in after I’ve convinced myself they’d never do it again. After years of being hurt in the same ways, usually by the same people, I promised myself I’d stop. No more forgiveness, everybody got one chance and after that chance was gone, so were they. I lost people quickly, determined to stay true to my promise. I was angry all the time, which was exhausting. I had thought this would help me from being hurt, but I was hurting myself. So I let you back in, I listened to the lies and promises and told myself they were truthful. I knew I was going to get hurt, you said verbatim the same things all the others had said. I knew who you were, there’s no way we talked about the things we talked about and didn't know each other. Yet, as the saying goes “there’s comfort in consistency”; I always went into things knowing I’d be hurt, why stop then? So I did what I’ve always done, and ignored every red flag. I jumped in head first. Ignored everyone that told me not to.
By Stormy Robertson8 years ago in Humans
How to Begin Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
As a person with a very empathic soul, I've found myself in a couple very life shattering narcissistic abusive relationships. I had to relocate a few times over and find myself all over again. It's been a very eye opening process, but I'm here to tell you your life is not over, and you too can heal and live your life without this person that has manipulated you into believing it is.
By Regan Somerset8 years ago in Humans
The Girl with Tired Eyes and a Broken Chest
There was a point in time when I loved you—as much as a doe-eyed girl of 15 can claim to love anyone. We had passed over the threshold of childhood and into the realm of adolescence, and you were my first taste of “grown up.”
By Chaela Farrior8 years ago in Humans
On the Path to Healing
Ever wondered how to get over a broken heart? Well, truth is, you can't really get over it straight away but there are a few ways that can lessen the aching painful feeling that you feel inside your heart.
By Chloe Weaver8 years ago in Humans
How to Be Happy After a Breakup. Top Story - September 2018.
A heartbreak is an experience that no one can describe the same way but most people go through it in their life. There's at least a million books, songs, and movies based around it. We as a planet know a thing or two about losing love. Now, I want to try to help you through your time of need when all you want to do is spent your days crying and eating chocolate.
By Waverleigh Rose Garlington8 years ago in Humans
Overcoming Beautiful Storms
Sometimes things doesn’t always go as planned. Sometimes the things you may think are right are the main things that will hurt you most. For example, ever been in a relationship and everything was so smooth, loving, easy, & full of joy? You felt like you were on a cloud and didn’t want to get off. Then reality set in and when you got off that cloud that same person who made you feel so high was no longer there to catch you when you fell. It hurt didn’t it? Now you’re wondering what happened. You’re questioning your worth. You’re asking yourself what did you do wrong. Why did this happen? What was different? Are you not good enough? That person had something over you and you didn’t even know it. At that very moment you knew you were supposed to leave and not return. Some reason though you needed answers and would do anything to get them. Rather it was going back to that person continuously and allowing them to hurt you over and over again. Or trying to fix the broken glass that shattered right between your fingers. Either way you ended up hurt. You chose pain over pleasure. That person was the only person to make you feel the way you felt and that was all you wanted. You wanted that cloud back. You wanted what you had in the beginning. You fell in love with someone who only loved the way you loved them. That confused you. You thought that maybe if you just lowered your value and forget about your worth for a second then they will come around and love you the way you loved them. Now you’re losing yourself trying to love someone more than you love yourself. At this point you no longer see that you’re hurting yourself. You’re getting more pain out of this than gain. You were on a mission to finding out those answers and forgot who you really were. Not realizing that you had the answers the whole time. Once you realize you’ve lost yourself you will probably get depressed, start stressing, little to no appetite, sad all the time, and feel drained. Why? Because you’ve wasted so much of your time trying to make someone love you. You made yourself suffer. You hurt the person you loved the most. You made the mistake of forgetting who you are. However one morning you were tired of feeling overwhelmed and drained. You decided to fix yourself up nicely and feel alive again. You leave home and go do something that you remembered made you happy. You are focusing on you . You are taking control over yourself again. You are gaining that power that you’ve lost. You accept all the things that brought you down and realize that’s not where you want to be ever again. You now see that loving yourself first and never losing you is your key to happiness. You feel free again. You’ve created your own cloud. Now you will never allow anyone to steal your joy ever again. You have been taught a lesson. You have overcame that beautiful storm.
By Asia Love8 years ago in Humans
Post Breakup
People say that after a terrible relationship that you shouldn’t let that change who you are or the type of person you are. It’s bullshit because you are forced changed forever morphed by that experience. You could become someone who may have trust issues or who is cold or who don’t give a fuck anymore.
By Alicia Watkins8 years ago in Humans
Getting Over Heartbreak
Heartbreak is horrible. It seems like a wasteland or a bottom of a well with no ladder. We’ve all been there at some point in time, and as writer I feel like it is my duty to put into words what you yourself can’t always explain. During this awful time, you will no doubt hear advice, but you are also likely to have people that make you feel silly for being so sad. Everyone experiences heartbreak differently. Personally, I didn’t feel lonely; I felt empty. I felt like I had given everything I had in me; and in the end there was nothing left to give. I felt like I’d given my best but ended up being left at my worst. My chest felt heavy and there was a constant lump in my throat. The pain was extremely real physically and I was emotionally distraught. I just wanted to sleep all day and drink all night. I felt like I was constantly losing. There was this permanent sadness that lingered in the back of my mind.
By Hailey R.8 years ago in Humans
Why I’m Not Over It
It's been four months. I know. Yes, I'm still mad at him for hurting me. It's honestly a process to get up everyday and tell myself I won't let that anger control me that day. That mad isn't the way to live because I'll go nowhere if I can't live with my past, and let go of it. To be honest with you, no I'm not over it. I'm over him. I'm not in love with him. The only thing I feel for him is love as a person, love for my best friend. Because he still is.
By Breeze ~8 years ago in Humans
Confession: My One Regret Exposed
I have one tangible regret. Never wanting to be the reason someone hurts, I make it a point to try my hardest to never be. I'm not saying there isn't a few (probably many) people who go around telling "This is why I hate her" stories, but their recollection of it is usually biased and not 100 percent correct. The reality is the fault is usually 100 percent mutually culpable, with the exception of this one time I am about to divulge to you. I have never really shared this in its entirety with anyone, but one person, and I am feeling increasingly anxious as I type. It needs to be said, so here it goes.
By Angela Brigance-Vance8 years ago in Humans
You Have Plenty of Time
The most interesting thing about being a 27-year-old woman going through a divorce is the response that people have when they find out my age. The conversation goes something like this.
By Rose Ericson8 years ago in Humans