advice

Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Worst Year of My Life
Seventh grade, what I used to think was the worst year of my life. Seriously, I did. It was a new school, new town, new people, and even a new house. My mother had been in a serious relationship with a man for about a year or so, and they had decided to move in together. Ace is a farmer, so it’s not like he could just pack up his cattle and come live with my mother, brother, and me.
By Miss. J8 years ago in Humans
The Adult Flirting with You is Actually a Gross Predator
I was fifteen years old when I met Him. Charismatic, dark and handsome, and a badass biker on top of that, he was everything I thought made him too good for me, so when he actually wanted to talk to me, to spend time with me, it was pretty much a dream come true.
By SR James8 years ago in Humans
Young Love
Many young teens await anxiously to grow up. Some may prioritize friends over homework, jobs over scholarships, or relationships over their own well being. So many teenagers can't wait to fall in love with someone. They believe that having a partner means they'll be set for high school. However, they may be too young to know what love is. Or what abuse is.
By Kye Souverbielle8 years ago in Humans
To the Girl Who Needs to Find Herself Again
Somewhere along the line, life happened. And you got swept off your feet into the vortex where you lost yourself. You got confused between who you were and who the world wanted you to be. You forgot how incredibly special and amazing you are. You’ve forgotten how talented and blessed you are. You’ve sacrificed who you are for who they want you to be. You’ve allowed other people to tell you who you are. You’ve forgotten everything about you that makes you you.
By M F8 years ago in Humans
John and Jane...and Communication
In order for a relationship to work, be it a friendship or a romantic situation, communication is key. Without it, a stand still will be reached, interest will be lost, and the creation will come to a crumbling end. This end can be peaceful or warlike depending on the parties involved. Without communication, there is no learning, there is no growth as a couple or as an individual. A true relationship forces both members to bend, but not break, to listen as well as respond. Today, many people listen only to react, not truly respond in an intelligent and healthy manner. It is selfish communication that only serves individuals in prolonging an argument or the status quo.
By Katrina Thornley8 years ago in Humans
Things You Shouldn't Say to an Interracial Couple
I am white, and my fiance is black. This shouldn't be a problem, however, it does seem to cause an issue with a lot of people. Or, rather, it seems to cause a lot of problems for the two of us — simply because people seem to be blissfully unaware that there are things you shouldn't say to an interracial couple.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
Narcissists
Having lived through a horrific marriage to a class one narcissist has been the most life changing experience of my life. It nearly destroyed me and my kids. I read everything I could find on narcissism and narcissists and their victims. My ex's diagnosis did not go unchallenged (by him of course) but, then no surprise! That is what a narcissist does. They turn everything around to make you feel that you are at fault, that you are the crazy one, that they cannot be with you because they "were meant for greatness," and anything that they do wrong they say they never did, and that you are the one that did this.
By Margie BQ8 years ago in Humans
The Song Remains the Same
"Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, California sunlight Sweet Calcutta rain Honolulu starbright The song remains the same..." No reason, I just had this song in mind when I ventured into this musing...
By Amanda Karenina8 years ago in Humans
"The One" Myth
If you've ever looked for "the one", you know that it's harder than it looks. There are so many love stories out there, depicting how Romeo find his Juliette, and how they get to have their happily ever after.
By Yumi Yamamoto8 years ago in Humans
Questions to Ask in a New Relationship
When you first start going out with someone, everything seems magical. They are the best thing since sliced pie, and you often get the warm, fuzzy feeling that they are going to be The One. Beginnings are all about being lovebirds and romantic. That's why they call it the "Honeymoon Phase."
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
Abusing Love
Virtually and in reality I've seen (what it seems to ME) couples claiming to know what love is and believing that they represent the ideal relationship. Posting a video or picture of two people kissing or of other actions that almost every other couple has done on a basis is not a real representation of love (in my opinion). Anyone can "show off" their girlfriend or boyfriend on Instagram, Snapchat or even Twitter or send cute texts to one another, then screenshot and post it so other people will applaud you for finding "love." Which leads me to my next topic: What do I think Love is? Love is the feeling you get that the person in front of you is the one whom you were destined for. When you experience true love, you will be willing to do anything for that person to just smile, and that person the same. Every worry in your life just floats away, and all you want to do is spend time with that person, help them with their goals, and show them your deepest thoughts and feelings.
By Jordan B.8 years ago in Humans
The Millennial's Guide to Relationships: What NOT To Do
“I don’t even know who that is!,” “She’s just a friend from high school…” “You can trust me…” these are just a few of the lines I, as well as my friends, have heard over the past few years from our own former significant others. Millennials seem to be having the hardest time grabbing onto a relationship that they’re willing to keep. It has become a paradox; everyone talks about how they want a faithful lover yet they aren’t committed when getting into a serious relationship. Here’s a news flash kiddos, you have to want to be faithful to be in a committed relationship! Contrary to popular belief, “talking” in today’s society is considered “dating” and it’s one of the biggest problems with the way young adults believe they should begin their journey of love. My main goal for you all is to possibly show you what the problems are and what NOT to do the next time you want to get into a serious relationship.
By Mylinh Saré Stern8 years ago in Humans