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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

"For You"
"Self-love is not selfish; you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself." —Unknown Growing up in such a strict family who forbid me to talk to boys made me only want to talk to them even more. My dad always told me not to even breathe in the same air as them. As I grew older, I completely disobeyed him. Throughout high school I was always focused on cute guys and what they thought of me. I would text them day and night, and that was the only thing I ever worried about. Schoolwork never crossed my mind. I was always so caught up in my own fantasy that I never knew my surroundings and where I'd end up. It all started when I was head over heels for this guy who was a bit younger than I was. I didn't care about his age, all I cared about was having someone who could keep me going. The one thing I also didn't notice is that I was fangirl-ing over a guy who knew nothing of my existence. I knew I had to do everything in my way to see him and I didn't feel guilty for it at all. I moved schools and made sure I had the opportunity to at least see him once a day. Finally, school started and I couldn't wait to see him. I found out that we were in the same class and I knew God was bringing me closer to him for a reason.
By Aalijah Trenshau7 years ago in Humans
Listening vs. Expressing Ourselves
Listening... Expressing yourself... Do they contradict each other? Or do they actually require each other? The purest conversation is equal input/equal output: listening and letting whatever comes at you or into you flow right back out of you.
By Casara Clark7 years ago in Humans
10 Things Some Men Can't Stand About Women
In our small world of men and women there lay a very tight string connecting us in relationships. Sometimes its a strong one, other times its easily frayed. There are some things that drive men absolutely crazy when it comes to women and our jigsaw minds. Others men simply don't understand. Sometimes the complexity makes them unwilling to even try.
By Shiny7 years ago in Humans
What Got Me Through My Heartache
This poem below really got me through my break-up because what I got from it is that not all loves last—not all relationships last. Sometimes, it’s hard to tell which love will last and which ones aren’t meant to last. There are little signs all over the place and we choose to ignore them because they aren’t a big deal, like forgetting how to show he appreciates you every day. Not everyone needs something big, but little things like opening the door for you, giving you a kiss on the forehead before they leave, or even offering to rub your feet because they know you’ve had a long day. Some things are sometimes expected like "thank you" or "I love you," but when someone means it and doesn’t say it as a routine, it’s special. We often forget how to show appreciation through little things every day instead of birthdays, anniversaries, or stupid made up Hallmark holidays.
By KP7 years ago in Humans
Dear You,
Dear You, Wherever you are and whoever you have become. The first thing you need to know is that I am so unbelievably proud of you.
By Connor Christine7 years ago in Humans
The Vulnerability of Men
This is coming from someone who currently has dated, fell in love, and is marrying a shy guy. Sometimes they are shy and sweet, shy and nervous, or sometimes, just shy. How do you get them out of their shell?
By Shiny7 years ago in Humans
Why She Left You
Gentlemen, have you ever wondered why she left you? Have you ever taken into consideration all the hard work she put into the relationship you shared? Do you wonder where she is or who she is with now? Maybe if you are the man reading this, you are probably lost with words to why she left you. Well, hopefully, these reasonings from a woman's perspective will clear the confusion.
By Tiffany C7 years ago in Humans
Lone Wolf Syndrome
I have always been a lone wolf. I mean, as far as I can remember, I have always found myself alone—whether at my school, my college, parties, my school trips or my college expeditions.
By Palak Singh7 years ago in Humans
5 Critical Pieces of Dating Advice for Straight Men from Lesbians
Dudes, you're on top of the world. At any given time, you've got a Tinderful of eligible ladies in your geographic area. Since you're a respectful guy who's looking for something serious, you're putting your all into each date. Nevertheless, the girls aren't following up.
By Anna Gooding-Call7 years ago in Humans
Being Second Rank
I have always felt under supported. Not by my close family but by my friends. I see other people whose friends support everything that they do. They share their work, watch their YouTube videos, buy what they sell, do whatever they can to help support their friends. Yet every time I ask for support it seems like I am asking someone to move mountains.
By Paranneting/Anne Reboa7 years ago in Humans
The Hierarchy of the People in our Lives
The year comes and the year goes. Like every other year, events will take place, you will experience certain things in your life, and people will come in and out of your life. We all attract different types of people in our lives. Sometimes these people can be a blessing or a karmic lesson. After all, our universe is nothing more than a university where we all must eventually graduate from in order to ascend to the next level. We are here to learn until the day we depart from this life and people are the teachers that help us do that. Some of these people are here to teach us literally by showing us the way, others teach us lessons through experiences. Some of them put us through such negative and painful experiences that we have no choice but to learn from them and be better, smarter, and stronger than the way we were before we met them.
By Spencer Jean-Mary7 years ago in Humans
5 Types of People That Are Bad for Your Health
If you live and you learn, why do I sometimes feel like I’m failing at life. I mean I’ve got the living part down no problem, but the learning part—not so much. I somehow seem to repeat the same mistakes enough times to where if this was a real school I’d be held back a grade, or seven. In fact, you may as well just call me "the Fonz" of life.
By Erika Potap7 years ago in Humans